An in depth view on the effects of the difficulties in a teenager’s life
BY SUMESHNEE GOVENDER
Have you ever lost yourself in a dilemma, wondering why things are the way they are? Why the earth is round and not flat? Or why sometimes in life reality seems so fake yet your imagination seems so realistic?
Yes, I understand that most or maybe all of my questions may have a rational or scientific answer. But in a sadistic world such like ours, powered by lust, murder, death and so many other heart-breaking factors, wouldn’t you prefer a little bit of sparkle added to your beliefs rather than a little bit of fantasy removed from your imagination? I know I most certainly would.
I remember not so long ago when I was in school, I remember how the environment was, how an innocent kid walks in and 5 years later that same kid walks out a drug addict with a proven crime record or worse that kid doesn’t even end up walking out because through the years of their high school experience they went through unthinkable torture.
They were manipulated with the simplest of bribes, they were forced down the wrong path one to many times. Peer pressured into alcohol and drug intake, underage coitus, and so on. At young ages they were exposed to heartbreak, betrayals, lust and or possibly even crimes they weren’t fully aware they were committing.
Treading amongst the rabble, they would feel unwanted and they would try to dig a way out of something they never knew they were getting into.
At this point, due to the judgemental ways of every society they would have already given up on life. They would feel they had nothing to live for. They would feel unwanted, abandoned and completely alone.
Trapped in the very essence of their fear. Perplexed within the endless boundaries of their imagination, they would have felt no one in this entire world could ever grasp the understanding of the danger most adults would face and the consequence of underestimating High School and the strength of its influence in effecting their child’s life.
Never take lightly the small problems in a child’s life, because they make it seem small and sometimes they don’t even show it at all. Until it builds up into something so uncontrollable, so petrifying that in their mind there’s only one way out. Only one conclusion.
This is the point where the kid considers the drastic decision of suicide. Simply, because a lot of parents and inexperienced teachers do not understand that school is worse than a prison. Taking this fact lightly causes the rate of student/teenage suicides to increase every year. Please guys find someone to talk to. Any one you trust. Don’t take the most precious thing God has given to us. Everyone has a purpose. No matter how worthless you feel. You complete someone’s life out there. Even if it’s just one person. They would be broken without you. Always remember that.
Teenage suicide is a grave matter and as I`ve stated before one of the largest reasons for it, is high school. It`s not the education system or the teachers most of the time but rather the emotional and psychological effects of what goes on in between.
Sadly, if we`re being honest it`s a problem that can’t really be fixed or not completely at least. Because not everyone knows who`s behind it in every school and those that do will never confess due to fear of mass embarrassment or possibly something far worse. Truthfully there are countless of reasons or possibilities as to why they would or would not confess and honestly no one could ever judge them for their choice until they experience it themselves.
I know the truth is disappointing or in this case terrifying at times. But you know what I love, the fact that pretenses and difficult situations always reveal a person’s true personality and character from all the lies and illusions they spread in our lives. Because in the end no matter how harsh or brutal the words are to handle, at least you were hit with the truth and not brushed with a lie.
Mahatma Gandhi once said: “You can`t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react to it.” Anger is a punishment we give ourselves, for somebody else`s mistake.
“Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God!” (1 John 3:1).
God actually considers you His very own precious child. He created you in the perfection of his own image. Remember that before you distance yourself from your own reflection.